Divorce (in CA marriage dissolution) must be litigated to get divorce decree but agreements should be sought to keep litigation costs to a minimum
Litigation is simply not good for the majority of divorcing couples, and it is cost prohibitive for most. Divorce lawyers should strive to work together until negotiations either result in an agreement or break down and require litigation. Those divorce lawyers who enter a case with all guns blazing are the ones who make the process worse for the family, spend all the money, and alienate everyone--including the general public. Pure collaboration that prohibits any form of litigation is probably not as effective as having the ability to enforce discovery or good behavior through litigation, and it becomes very expensive if lawyers have to be changed out in order to go into litigation. The family doesn't necessarily "end" at divorce; it is important to do what is fair and to maintain some relationships for the sake of the children--"winning" and "losing" are terms that don't always apply to divorce law.
I always try to keep litigation costs down as much as possible and negotiate with the opposing party and attorney.
-RoseAnn Frazee
